How to make your mother smile

The best thing you can do is to spend time with her (no irritation or annoyance allowed), or have a nice, relaxed conversation with her. No store bought card or pot of flowers will touch her heart as much as your efforts to express your sincere appreciation for her, past and present. To help you get started, here are ten mostly free ideas to choose from that are guaranteed to make your mom happy.

1. Go shopping with your mom. I know, this might feel awkward, but it will prove to her that you really want to spend time with her. Possible bonus: she’ll end up being so grateful, she’ll start buying you stuff.

2. Tell her to invite a couple of her best buddies over and you’ll make lunch for them. There’s nothing better than a mom getting to show off her pride and joy to her friends.

3. Help her with some sort of redecorating project. It could be tedious, but again, it shows you’re so interested in being with her and helping her that you’re willing to make the sacrifice.

4. Ask her what movie she’s been wanting to see and then plan a time to bring it over and sit down together to watch it. Again, it’s the idea that you can take time for her that will deliver the impact.

5. If the time is right, tell her how you realize that some of your best qualities came from her. She’ll love the compliment, but she’ll be even more thrilled that you’ve reflected on this.

6. Tell her about something going on in your life and then ask her about what things were like when she was this age. Most moms want their kids to know that they’re not that far away from their kids. The memories of being a young adult are still vivid and life was equally exciting and perplexing.

7. If you have your own kids, ask your mom how she handled certain situations like your obnoxious childhood friends or the obnoxious parents of your friends. She may have worked through some things and may have helpful insights.

8. Take a photo of you and your mom together, print it, and frame it. She’ll think of you and that moment every time she looks at it.

9. If you live in different cities, tell her what you’re doing on Mother’s Day and then tell her how much you wish she was there so you could do it together. This will maker her feel almost as good as being there.

And finally,

10. Sincerely tell her what a great mom she has been and what a happy childhood you had. Then, the absolute best thing you can do is to tell her that you still value her wisdom and experience and that you’re grateful she’s the one that is still scouting ahead for you, and you’ll always need her good advice. Now top it off with a cherry by saying “I really love you Mom.”

Cost: almost nothing